b) . How does he treat other people of lower status than him? . . . How does he treat the persons he doesn’t yet know very well? . . . How does he treat the check-out clerks, the gas station attendants, the bums and homeless people on the streets? . . . How does he treat stray dogs and cats? . . . Will he go out of his way to help someone he doesn’t know? . . . Is he quick to anger and curse, or slow to do so? . . . Can he hold a job for months & years without upsetting his co-workers or bosses or clientele? . . . Does he pay his bills on time? . . . Does he run up credit card debt and have bill collectors after him? . . . What does your mother and sisters think of him? . . . Does he have good manners on the phone? . . . Other than his past (before he met you), is he easy-going and easy-to-talk-to about everything else? . . . If he ran a business, would you recommend your best friends to do business with him? . . . Does he have some emergency savings? . . . Does he mow his yard, wash his car, go to the dentist as needed, and take his pets to the vet as needed? . . . Does he spend too much money on beer, alcohol, weed, lottery tickets, sports betting, cigarettes, porn, or other junk?
a) . Figure out what kind of people his current best friends are, figure out the kind of company he keeps (currently), and make the call on that basis.
Here is what this one may boil down to — pick one:
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
— Please feel free to respond with follow-up questions in the comment box immediately below, thanks.
Can you do this:
I need more information — Can you paint a larger, more detailed picture in the comment box below?
Should women be allowed in “combat roles” within the military?
2 — You have a bad apple who not only has a bad or checkered past, but he hasn’t fundamentally changed, he’s the same bad apple he always was, and doesn’t want you to figure that out. . Leave him and don’t think twice.
Would you want his best friends, and the people he hangs out with, as your next door neighbors for the rest of your life?
1 — You have a keeper of guy who has a bad or checkered past, but he’s repented, and he’s working hard to turn over a new leaf — but he’s still too ashamed of his past to talk about it. . Give him some time, patience, and a very friendly and sympathetic ear.
Marvell Stock Slides. Why It Could Be the Cheap AI Chip Play. - Barron's
